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Here are 10 ways to meet someone 'in the wild
' according to relationship experts and therapists.";"How To Meet People Without Dating Apps
According To Relationship Experts. Years ago
a married friend told me: “If you want to catch a lion
you’ve got to go to the jungle.” I laughed and continued swiping on Bumble. Fast forward to today
where many singles
especially Gen Z
have grown increasingly skeptical about their chances of finding love on a dating app and equally averse to their subscription fees.


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They’re more inclined to slide into someone’s DMs on social media
or even try finding someone the old-fashioned way: by striking up a conversation in person or
as it's recently been dubbed
meeting “in the wild.” (Maybe my friend knew what she was talking about after all.) The reasons for dating app fatigue abound. “People are frustrated with the gamification of apps
constantly monitoring for matches
keeping up with multiple conversations at once
responding to messages. They’re also getting wiser to the fact that
despite what many of these companies say
the goal is to keep them on the app
” says Marisa T. Cohen
PhD
LMFT
a therapist and relationship scientist based in New York. “They’re looking for more organic ways to connect with others and assess personality and compatibility in real life.” The main benefits of meeting in person: It offers an immediate opportunity to gauge chemistry
rather than prolonged back-and-forth messaging only to discover zero real-life attraction. Plus
if you meet at a specific place or type of event
you know you share a common interest right off the bat. Meet the experts: Marisa T. Cohen
PhD
LMFT
is a therapist and relationship scientist based in New York. Jess Carbino
PhD
is a dating and relationship sociologist and founder of the online coaching practice Relapy. Marie Thouin
PhD
is a mindful dating and relationship coach based in California. The first key to catching someone’s eye or starting an authentic conversation is being in the moment. “A lot of my clients try to meet in real life but notice the people next to them swiping through the apps rather than interacting with others
” adds Cohen. “I would say the first and most important step is putting your phone away.” Ready to venture into the wild? Ahead
three dating experts share their top recommendations on how to meet people in real life: 1. Ask to be set up. This is arguably the most straightforward way to meet someone without using an app. The biggest plus to getting set up by friends
family members
or even a coworker is knowing the other person comes somewhat pre-vetted. No one who cares about you wants to see you dating a creep. And
best of all
there’s a good chance your date will share your values and/or interests. “If you associate with people who share your views and values
chances are
the other person will be consistent with them too
” says Jess Carbino
PhD
a dating and relationship sociologist and founder of the online coaching practice Relapy. 2. Take a class. A class centered around a skill or hobby you enjoy—like rock-climbing
photography
or cooking—is a great way to meet someone with similar interests. It also gives you tons of organic conversation starters. That babe in your art class
for example
will probably be down to discuss a new exhibit in town
which could even lead to the suggestion you check it out together. “[At a class]
most of the focus is on the activity
” says Cohen. “Any conversation will be interspersed with what you’re doing
so the get-to-know-you part is less formal
less interview-like
and lower pressure.” 3. Join a book club. Book clubs are about trading opinions and engaging thoughtful discourse
meaning you’ve got tons of chances to see if another member is a potential intellectual match. Someone’s views and insights about the book itself might also offer a peek into their personality
too
adds Cohen. Related Stories. If you think there’s chemistry
try approaching a book club crush on your way out of a meeting and suggest grabbing a coffee one-on-one to continue the conversation. 4. Attend professional networking events. Pursuing an office romance probably isn’t a great idea: If things go south
an ex is the last person you want to see five days a week. Larger industry gatherings like happy hours or conferences
however
expose you to people with similar career goals and relatable schedules
explains Marie Thouin
PhD
a mindful dating and relationship coach based in California. And
hey
if you attend an event and don’t find any eligible singles
you’ll still get something out of the experience
Thouin adds: “It’s a cross-pollination opportunity. You can expand your career network and quite possibly your personal one
too.” 5. Go grocery shopping on weekends. Think about gussying up a bit before hitting Trader Joe’s or Whole Foods
especially on weekends when people are more leisurely and less rushed. A meet-cute in the produce aisle is possible—the key is “taking normal situations and making yourself a little more aware of who’s around you
” says Carbino. “If you see someone attractive
first check if they have a wedding ring on. If they don’t
starting a conversation can be as easy as
�Have you tried the frozen Kung Pao chicken? I was thinking about it.’ If they’re interested
they’ll engage with you
” she adds. 6. Sign up for speed dating. Before the apps
speed dating was the closest thing to swiping because it involves a quick
instinctual yes or no. It’s also a given everyone there is single and looking for romance. Unlike the apps
however
speed-dating events are in person
so you don’t have to worry about deceptive photos—plus
you can get a temperature check on your in-person chemistry. Related Stories. These days
speed dating options are plentiful
with many events narrowed by age range
interests
or a shared experience like dining in the dark or solving puzzles
notes Cohen. An online directory of local events (like TimeOut or EventBrite) can often help you find the right one. 7. Attend a faith-based mixer. Remember Charlotte and Harry? Chances are
you won’t get an impromptu proposal from one of these
but singles’ events thrown by faith-based organizations—like churches
synagogues
or mosques—offer another way to meet people with shared values. “You don’t necessarily need to be super observant
but if you’re comfortable with your religion and seeking someone who shares those beliefs
a faith-based event is an ideal social opportunity
” Carbino says. 8. Go to a storytelling or speaking event. It takes guts to be vulnerable onstage
but open mic nights or speaking events give you a forum to express your creativity and showcase yourself
says Thouin. There’s usually a chance for post-show mingling
so if you’re too shy to participate
try approaching someone to compliment them on their performance and ask more about what they shared. 9. Volunteer. Selflessness can be a turn-on. “Get involved in a cause you’re passionate about. Not only will it be personally meaningful
it’s also an opportunity to connect with someone who has like-minded values and ideals
” says Thouin.