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Most older couples dispense with intercourse and embrace &quot
outercourse.&quot
;Older Lovers Say They Want Regular Sex—But Not Intercourse. Older couples sustain erotic heat by evolving from intercourse to “outercourse.” Share on Bluesky. THE BASICS.

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The Fundamentals of Sex Take our Sexual Satisfaction Test Find a sex therapist near me. Key points. Older adults who have sex at least twice a month report greater happiness than those who abstain from partner sex
according to a study. Women in the study did not consider intercourse to be a major contributor to sexual satisfaction. Men missed intercourse more than women. Intercourse is often not as central to sex for older adults
but sex remains important late in life. There are many other ways to enjoy sex. As part of the ongoing English Longitudinal Study of Aging (ELSA)
a team of British and European researchers assessed the sex lives and happiness of almost 7
000 coupled participants—3
834 women
3
045 men
average age 65. Compared with those who abstained from partner sex
participants who made love twice a month or more reported substantially greater happiness (p. For ELSA women
the moves that brought the greatest satisfaction included: kissing
cuddling
hugging
mutual whole-body massage
and oral sex—but not intercourse. The men expressed a bit more nostalgia for intercourse
but otherwise concurred with the women's erotic preferences. The Great Intercourse Divide. The women in the ELSA study
age 50 to 89
did not consider intercourse a major contributor to happiness or sexual satisfaction. That’s hardly a new finding. Many studies agree that
assuming reasonably happy relationships
women of all ages enjoy intercourse
especially holding men inside them. But only a small fraction are consistently orgasmic from vaginal intercourse—depending on the study
just 5 to 20 percent. Women’s main pleasure organ is not the vagina
but the clitoris
which sits outside the vagina
an inch or two above it beneath the top junction of the vaginal lips. Meanwhile
around 95 percent of men are orgasmic during intercourse
which explains why the ELSA men thought more fondly of it. But by age 60
around 90 percent of men have erection difficulties
and even with drugs
may no longer be able to twist the sheets like they used to. From Intercourse to “Outercourse” The ELSA study corroborates the two findings of a great deal of previous research. Lovemaking remains important to most people late in life. But vaginal intercourse usually drops out of their erotic repertoire. This happens for two reasons—men’s increasing erection difficulties
and in postmenopausal women
vaginal dryness and atrophy (tissue thinning) that often make intercourse uncomfortable or impossible
even with lubricant. Most adults who remain sexual past 60 decide that intercourse just isn’t worth it anymore. Fortunately
when older couples—or lovers of any age—jettison intercourse
they can still enjoy marvelous sex by focusing on kissing
hugging
cuddling
mutual whole-body massage
and other types of play. Many older adults
especially men
have a hard time transitioning from sex organized around intercourse to sex without it. But sex coaches and therapists almost universally recommend this shift to older couples. And as the ELSA study shows
with or without intercourse—mostly without—almost all the older adults in the study said that regular lovemaking contributed to their happiness. What About Solo Sex? In addition to partner sex
both the older men and women also self-sexed
most regularly. They did not feel bad about it
but self-pleasuring did not contribute significantly to their overall happiness. Why not? Two reasons: Masturbation continues to be stigmatized
and the elders in the study grew up at a time when solo sex was even more taboo than it is today. Even when people feel fine about masturbation
most rate self-sexing less satisfying than partner lovemaking. THE BASICS. The Fundamentals of Sex Take our Sexual Satisfaction Test Find a sex therapist near me. It’s no surprise that the older adults in the ELSA study rated self-sexing considerably less satisfying than partner play. But it’s sad. Today
more Americans than ever are single. They might enjoy some partner sex
but being single usually means less partner whoopee and more solo play. In addition
around 20 percent of Americans—especially older adults—have aches
pains
and disabilities that make partner sex difficult and sometimes impossible. For them
self-sexing alone or in each other’s company is not “second best.” It’s their best way to remain sexual under changed—and often challenging—circumstances. My suggestion for older adults: Figure out the sexual repertoire you can enjoy comfortably
solo or partnered
and enjoy it regularly. My suggestion to younger lovers: If you enjoy intercourse
in the words of Janis Joplin
get it while you can.













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