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Anxiety is a condition that can close you off to others. For friends and family of those living with anxiety
this can represent a serious challenge. You want to help them deal with their condition
but you don't know what to say to them that diminishes their distress.

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It's important to realize that while anxiety is not a physical condition
it's also not something that can be cured by logic or reasoning. Like a disease
anxiety is something that needs special treatment. In this article
we'll give a background on what it's like to live with anxiety
followed by information on how to help your family members or friends with anxiety. Living With Anxiety. You need to realize that anxiety disorders are not like normal anxiety. It's not like the anxiety you feel before a meeting with your boss
or when you come face to face with a bully at school. It's much more complex
much less controllable
and with passage of time
more difficult to cure. Self-Sustaining Nature of Anxiety. The first thing to understand is that anxiety itself is self-sustaining. It causes problems with your mind and body that make it more likely to experience further anxiety. For example
anxiety leads to more negative thinking
which then precipitates Anxiety can have physical manifestations
such as hyperventilation
sweating
nausea
etc. which can be very troubling. Anxiety also creates hypersensitivity
which is a mental response that makes people more prone to noticing those physical symptoms and letting it affect them. If anxiety were just nervousness and sweating
anxiety disorders may not be considered as serious. But anxiety is so much more than that
and the longer you live with anxiety the more prevalent these symptoms can get. Fearing Anxiety. Anxiety can also cause people to fear the anxiety itself
which unfortunately affects other areas of their life. When you're nervous about one thing (for example
social situations) you can become nervous about other things as a result (for example
amusement park rides). So when someone starts to fear their own anxiety and its symptoms
they may also develop new anxieties
or find more situations to provoke anxiety. Learning to Forget What You Think About Anxiety. As someone with family members or friends who have anxiety or a panic disorder
it's important to understand what anxiety really is. For example
did you know that someone with anxiety can experience physical symptoms even when they're not mentally anxious? Did you know that one of the symptoms of a panic attack is a feeling of imminent death or doom
combined with intense physical symptoms that are nearly identical to heart attacks? If you've never had anxiety
it's extremely difficult to empathize and understand
because it is so much different than the normal anxieties people experience in their everyday life. If you start trying to "cure" your friend's anxiety by assuming you understand what they're dealing with
you're going to struggle
and you may actually upset your friend or family member more. The Do's and Don'ts of Anxiety. With that in mind
it's time to go over some tips on how to help a friend with anxiety. Note that every person is different and has different needs. There are some people who want to talk about their anxieties
and there are others who may have never mentioned it. So even with these do's and don'ts
it's hard to know exactly what you should do. However
this can be a helpful guide. DO let this person know that they can talk to you about it openly
without any fear of judgment. It's very important that they know that you're there to lend them an ear
and that you aren't going to judge them or change the way you think/feel about them based on anything they say - even if they say the same fear over and over again (because for many
the fears and thoughts are nearly exactly the same each time). DON'T get frustrated. Those with anxiety really do know that their fears shouldn't bother them
but as hard as they try they can't stop
and expecting them to use logic to control their anxiety is extremely difficult
if not impossible. DO spend time with them as much as possible. You being around them is a bigger help than you realize. In fact
they may not realize it either. But time spent with others makes it harder to think about their anxieties
and that makes a difference. DON'T bring up the anxiety often. This is a tricky one - while you want to be there to talk about it
there are some anxieties
like panic attacks
that can be triggered by thinking about it. In other words
if you ask someone "how are your panic attacks?" you may accidentally trigger an attack. Let them bring it up with you. DO tell them to call you anytime
anywhere. Talking on the phone and knowing someone is there to pick up can actually be incredibly comforting to someone that is trying to control their anxiety. Anxiety can make people feel lost and alone. Knowing that someone is a phone call away reduces that feeling. DON'T let anxiety affect you as well. Make sure that you are working on your own stress and anxiety
because the way you feel can have an effect on the way others feel
especially as you spend more and more time again. If you're dealing with anxiety yourself
the other person is going to deal with more anxiety as well. DO be forgiving. Anxiety can make people irritable. It's not in the control of the person with anxiety. Ideally
try your best to be forgiving. Let them know that you understand
and that even if it's not fair you're not going to quit the friendship because of it. DON'T expect massive
immediate turnarounds. Unfortunately
controlling anxiety does take time. Those that try to cure it too fast often find they have setbacks that are sometimes worse than the initial anxiety. It's very important that you understand that curing anxiety can take a lot of time
and even on the way there
there are going to be issues that come up and fears that they're going to have. It's natural. DO exciting activities. Try to be outdoors. Find things to do that don't involve alcohol (since alcohol can cause setbacks in anxiety treatments). Stay active. Exercise itself is a remedy for anxiety
and creating new memories can help people cope with some of the stresses of life. So try your best to get out and do things together. DON'T guilt trip.













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